“Love and Marriage”
Tips for Sustaining a Successful Marriage
By: Jenn Stepic M.A.
The vows were read, the rice was tossed, and the flower bouquet was caught. The happy couple were now husband and wife. What would sustain this duo? How could they create a satisfying and successful marriage?
In a society were divorce is an unfortunate and common occurrence, many couples are seeking a solution to maintaining a meaningful and loving relationship. John Gottman, Ph.D, a prominent psychologist and marriage researcher outlines the features of prosperous relationships in his book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” (Tartakovsky, 2012).
So what does Dr. Gottman suggest to both young and old love birds? “Turn toward each other instead of away” (Tartakovsky, 2012). Here Gottman encourages romance to be more about the everyday acts of love, rather than material goods. “Let your partner influence you” (Tartakovsky, 2012). The love doctor prescribes that couples work as a team, as they take into account each other’s feelings and viewpoints. “Nurture your fondness and admiration” (Tartakovsky, 2012). Gottman’s exercise entitled, “I appreciate,” has partners record positive characteristics of their spouse, which should then be shared with one another.
These are just a few of the tools couples can utilize when creating a loving and lasting relationship. If you and your partner are struggling with marital conflict and discord, therapy can offer you a safe and unbiased place to improve your connection.
Tartakovsky, M. (2012). 7 Research-Based Principles for Making Marriage Work. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 22, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/01/08/7-research-based-principles-for-making-marriage-work/