New Video Blog Series

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HYHH kicks off the first episode of our new video blog series. This series will cover any and all topics related to mental health. Looking for a healthy dose of tips and nuggets to overcome your mental health issues follow our video series by
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Episode 1: Transitioning from Foster Care to Adulthood
If you struggle in this area, we want to hear your story. Submit it to hccnquestions@gmail.com and your story could be featured on Healing Conversations with Camishe Nunley and Nathan McGuire Talk RadioShow. Get expert opinions and feedback live. Check out our guests this month on HCCN by clicking here.

Episode 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHxsLb84F0s

 

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Stress Reduction: Is It Really Possible?

Stress Reduction: Is it Possible?
By: Beth Willhouse Goodrich

Stress – unfortunately it is a word that too many people understand. We live in a society where stress seems to be the norm because so many things that cause stress are encouraged or even expected. Today people are expected to always be willing to do more – more work, serve on more committees, enroll their children in more activities. Enough, already!! We need to take a step back and realize that we are human and all humans’ have limits.

People who know me well, know one of my favorite words is “boundaries”. Knowing your boundaries and respecting them is a big stress reliever. It will also help with your self – esteem! When someone asks you to serve on one more committee in which you don’t have time, give yourself permission to say “no”. When you are feeling overwhelmed, give yourself permission to turn your cell phone on mute and take a break. I promise the world will not end!

When you find yourself feeling stressed, pause and really think about what is causing your stress and then determine what you can do to alleviate it. Some things will always be out of your control. However if you try, you can think of things to improve the situation. For example, if you agreed to host an event and you feel overwhelmed by it, ask for help or scale down the event. That can at least take away some of the pressure and reduce your stress.

According to WebMD, other things you can do to reduce stress are meditate, breathe deeply, be present (slow down and only focus on one thing), reach out (talk to someone), tune in to your body (try to determine where/how stress affects your body), and decompress (especially focus on the places where your body is affected).

To find out more ways you can reduce stress, I recommend a stress reduction workshop and/or therapy. At Healing Your Hidden Hurts, we are here to help! Contact us at 888.349.1116 or http://www.healingyourhiddenhurts.com to schedule your first appointment and to learn more about our September 8, 2014 Stress Reduction workshop.
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Sustaining a Successful Marriage: Possible or Not?

“Love and Marriage”

Tips for Sustaining a Successful Marriage

By:  Jenn Stepic M.A.

The vows were read, the rice was tossed, and the flower bouquet was caught.  The happy couple were now husband and wife.  What would sustain this duo?  How could they create a satisfying and successful marriage?

In a society were divorce is an unfortunate and common occurrence, many couples are seeking a solution to maintaining a meaningful and loving relationship.  John Gottman, Ph.D, a prominent psychologist and marriage researcher outlines the features of prosperous relationships in his book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” (Tartakovsky, 2012).

So what does Dr. Gottman suggest to both young and old love birds?  “Turn toward each other instead of away” (Tartakovsky, 2012).  Here Gottman encourages romance to be more about the everyday acts of love, rather than material goods.  “Let your partner influence you” (Tartakovsky, 2012).  The love doctor prescribes that couples work as a team, as they take into account each other’s feelings and viewpoints.  “Nurture your fondness and admiration” (Tartakovsky, 2012).  Gottman’s exercise entitled, “I appreciate,” has partners record positive characteristics of their spouse, which should then be shared with one another.

These are just a few of the tools couples can utilize when creating a loving and lasting relationship.  If you and your partner are struggling with marital conflict and discord, therapy can offer you a safe and unbiased place to improve your connection.

Tartakovsky, M. (2012). 7 Research-Based Principles for Making Marriage Work. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 22, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/01/08/7-research-based-principles-for-making-marriage-work/

 

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The Power of Fear

The Power of Fear

By Terri L Cady

“Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” Will Smith, After Earth

We all know the feeling of being afraid. First your heart begins to race; your breathing becomes labored and heavy, while feelings of dread wash over you preparing for the worst. Of all our emotions fear is the most potent one of them. It controls the steps we take, keeps us from making changes in our life, while keeping us locked in a perpetual cycle of being stuck, unable to move to the next phase in life.

Stephen King is one of the most famous horror/ suspense writers. As of today he has sold over 350 million novels, many which have been adapted into films and miniseries, and continues to write of some the best frightening novels of all times. In1973, However King’s fear of not being good enough almost stopped him from becoming who he is today. King had thrown an early draft of the novel into the trash after becoming discouraged with his progress writing about a teenage girl with psychic powers. His wife retrieved the manuscript and encouraged him to finish it. Stephen King’s first novel Carrie was accepted by publishing house Doubleday. What if that manuscript never would have been completed? What if King’s fear kept him from achieving greatness? The world would have never experienced his true gift of writing. One of my favorite quotes is found in King’s novel Different Seasons that states, “Fear can hold you prisoner. Hope can set you free.” This statement spoke volumes to me. It is Ok to be afraid, but we cannot let fear rule our lives. Fear puts walls around people, and shackles us down by thinking we cannot change our lives. Whether it be the fear of the economy or stepping out of our comfort zone many people remain in relationships and jobs not suited for their personality. Waking up in the morning is more like a sentence than a blessing. The key to breaking free is hope. We do not have to let fear rule our lives, stifle our dreams, or keep us prisoners of negativity or mediocrity.

Change can be very fear-provoking, but rewarding as well. Taking that first step towards change, taking the leap of faith and replacing the power of fear with hope, can open so many opportunities. Here at HHH we will take that first step with you on your journey to the next chapter of your story. Talking to a therapist can help one explore ways to reach your true potential and overcome fear once and for all.

So let’s take that first step together. Contact Healing Hidden Hurts at 888.349.1116 to schedule an appointment today.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stephen_King

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/830842-fear-is-not-real-the-only-place-that-fear-can

 

 

 

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Unlocking Your Dreams: Living Life to Your Fullest Potential

Unlocking your dreams: Living life to your fullest potential!

In her book The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron writes, “I remember sitting in a hotel room twenty years ago with two then-little-known directors, Brian De Palma and Steven Spielberg. Spielberg was talking about a film he longed to make about the UFO phenomenon. There was scant support for the project and Spielberg was discouraged – although the project itself excited him. What to do? De Palma encouraged him to follow his heart and make that piece of art. That movie became Close Encounters of the Third Kind.”

What if Steven Spielberg would have remained discouraged? What if Brian De Palma would not have encouraged him to follow his heart? Going out on a limb, being creative and following your heart can feel impractical and maybe even really scary. So often we hear of people going into their family business, choosing a life path based on their parents’ encouragement or insistence or not following a dream because it seems foolish. However, if we follow someone else’s dream for ourselves or deny a part of ourselves, we may be left feeling empty, depressed, bored or not really fulfilled. We end up ignoring our God given gifts.

Holocaust survivor, Victor Frankl once said, “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life… Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.” Do you feel you are following your mission in life? What have you thought about wanting to do but you find yourself ignoring it? Is it because you do not feel you have the time, money, courage, support, etc., etc., etc. to do it? Too often people push these questions out of their mind but find themselves feeling unfulfilled with life.

Often there are underlying issues which keep people from being able to live life to their fullest. Fear can stop people in their tracks. Maybe they are afraid people will reject or laugh at their idea or even worse reject or laugh at them. It can be very beneficial to talk to someone to sort through these roadblocks.

If you are struggling with unanswered questions, doubts, or insecurities regarding a new direction your life should take, therapy can be the answer to your search for support. Contact Healing Hidden Hurts at 888.349.1116 to schedule your first appointment.

 

Cameron, J. (1992). The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity. New York, NY: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam a member of Penguin Putnam Inc.

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Ignite Your Light

“Ignite Your Light”

Exploring Burnout Syndrome
By: Jenn Stepic M.A.

​There once was a girl named Jane, whose overzealous nature led to a career in medicine. During her school years, Jane could always be found at the top of her class, impressing the university scholars and her peers. Soon, Jane landed her dream job at a well-known hospital. As years passed, Jane’s enthusiasm dwindled and her co-workers could see, she had lost her luster. Her mornings were met with exhaustion and dread. Jane’s staff meetings were accompanied with cynical remarks and pessimism. Instead of feeling a sense of accomplishment at each day’s end, she felt ineffective and useless. Simply put, Jane was burnt out.
​Just like Jane, many career professionals are met with similar signs and symptoms of burnout.

Burnout was first devised in the 1970s and was used to describe the negative effects of extreme stress and the high standards that helping professionals often face. Today, burnout has the ability to affect all people, from housewives to famous celebrities (2013). For a genuine burnout victim, their happiness, quality of life, and health may be compromised (Carter, 2012).

Instead of turning complacent, one can incorporate various strategies to overcome this monster. Use the weekend as a time to rejuvenate oneself from the stress experienced during the work week. Sleeping in, eating right, and engaging in stress reducing activities can give one the break they are craving. Bringing work home can light the match that ignites burnout. So avoid communication that involves work related duties, such as emails, phone calls, and text messages. If one finds these tools ineffective, packing one’s bags for a vacation to the tropics could also be helpful (Carter, 2012).
​If the morning alarm clock still seems more like a sentence than an opportunity, you may be experiencing severe burnout. Talking to a therapist can help one explore ways to rediscover oneself.

Contact Healing Hidden Hurts at 888.349.1116 to schedule an appointment.
Carter, S. (2012). Where Do You Fall on the Burnout Continuum?
(2013). What is Burnout Syndrome?

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The Winter Slump!

Holiday Blues and The Winter Slump

It’s back!

The days have gotten shorter and the nights exceedingly colder.

Students around the country cram in as much information into their heads before final exams and semester breaks.  Applications for graduate school and jobs are nervouslylooked over and finally turned in.  Mothers and fathers work to prepare and brace themselves for a huge wave ofkids returning home after years with an empty nest. Friends are reunited after attending different schools.  Families from far away places finally come together to share love and create memories with one another.  Decorative lights come up and battle the dark persistent cold outside.  The holiday season is known for bringing more joy into our lives.

 

And yet, the cold introduces a certain solemnness despite the celebrations and merriment frequently observed alongside it.  Winter inspires an urge to stay indoors, to feelmore comfortable, whether at home at the expense ofhaving company or snuggled under a thick blanket in front of a burning fire.  And sometimes these urges start to feel more necessary than usual, taking over our days and interfering with our lives.

 

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD), or winter depression has been shown to strongly affect those living farthest from the equator and is also more prevalent among women than men (National, 2012).  SAD is characterized by recurrentdepressive episodes during specific seasons such as the late fall and winter.  Symptoms most commonly include (but are not limited to) oversleeping, daytime fatigue, lethargy, increased eating, weight gain, hopelessness, lack of interest in social activities, and even suicidal thoughts.

 

If you or a friend may be exhibiting these characteristics it may be helpful to explore a knowledgeable resource and find an effective treatment plan.

 

All too often people we care about lose sight of the warmth and light blessed in their life when confronted by the constant cold and darkness surrounding their days.  Therapy can be the small nudge to keep you or a loved one floating during troubled waters.

 

If you notice someone who has started to miss class or work regularly it may beneficial to touch base.  For further information contact Healing Hidden Hurts at 888.349.1116.

 

National Alliance On Mental Illness (NAMI). Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). (2012, December). Retrieved from http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Section=By_Illness&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=23051

Rosenthal, N. E., Sack, D. A., Gillin, J. C., Lewy, A. J., Goodwin, F. K., Davenport, Y., … & Wehr, T. A. (1984). Seasonal affective disorder: a description of the syndrome and preliminary findings with light therapy. Archives of General Psychiatry, 41(1), 72.

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